The Man who taught me about Equality.

I thought I know about equality and generally worked to promote it. You know by not allowing gender to define my roles. I mean I asked guys to dance and out on dates but there were areas where I was still social programmed to engage in unequal behavior. Until I met him I was unaware this was occurring.

“May I kiss you?” He requested with unassuming tenderness; his soft blue eyes filled with hopefully longing. I was surprised by the request for permission but relieved at the same time. A single mother who was in uncomfortable territory I was glad to be setting the pace. This would the first of many requests for permission and communication during sexual exploration between myself and the man who would become my husband. Little did I know this intelligent sexy gentle man before me would teach me so much about equality? I didn’t realize that he had just taught me about consent.

We have now been together for over seven years and married almost six. Our roles in our partnership are not defined by our gender. Each of us often have characteristics and perform duties typically assigned to the opposite gender. We embrace that we our both sexual beings in a partnership whose roles with in that partnership should be determined by time, skill, and other logical factors. We strive to see each other as two humans who have agreed to a mutual beneficial relationship which is ever evolving and growing as we do.